A woman has revealed dinner at her boyfriend’s house descended into chaos after she opened up a Tupperware full of food she had pre-prepared.
Taking to Reddit, the 28-year-old woman, who is believed to be from the US, explained that she has severe food allergies and informed her partner’s mother about them before the dinner.
Despite that, she discovered all of the dishes that were served contained at least one ingredient she couldn’t eat.
Instead of ‘making a fuss’ and asking for something else, the woman pulled out her Tupperware meal and began eating it.
However, this did not go down well with her hosts, as her boyfriend’s mother said she was ‘being disrespectful’ and should ‘trust her cooking’.
The woman’s post, on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole page, read: ‘I’m 28-years-old and I have been with my boyfriend for about a year, I have several food allergies [including] gluten, dairy, and shellfish.
‘My boyfriend’s family invited me over for a big homemade dinner. I told his mom ahead of time that I have allergies, they already know this but I reminded them because I’ve had a couple of incidents with them because of this and she said, “Don’t worry, we’ll have something for you!”
‘When I got there, everything had at least one ingredient I couldn’t eat. I didn’t want to make a fuss or go hungry, so I discreetly pulled out a Tupperware meal I made at home and started eating it.
A woman revealed on Reddit that her boyfriend said she was ‘rude’ for bringing her own meal to his family dinner (stock image)
‘My boyfriend’s mom looked offended and said I was being disrespectful and that I didn’t trust her cooking.
‘Later my boyfriend told me I embarrassed him and should’ve just “eaten around” the allergens to keep the peace.’
Asking for advice, the woman wondered whether she had been in the wrong for bringing her own food to the dinner party.
Responding to the woman, most Reddit users felt she had done the right thing and that her boyfriend was the ‘a**hole’ for suggesting she should have put herself in danger for his family’s approval.
One person wrote: ‘They’re “offended” that you’re not giving yourself allergic reactions?
‘Your boyfriend is [the a**hole] and a massive one for suggesting you physically suffer just for his family’s approval.’
Another added: ‘Be careful around people like this. I’ve heard horror stories of partners/family members not taking allergies seriously or thinking the individual is making them up so they try and slip them something they are allergic to prove a point.
‘Your partner should respect your health more and advocate for you.’
A third added: ‘Google “boyfriends ignoring girlfriends allergies”. be horrified that not only do they not care about the allergies, a lot of them will mess with their girlfriends food to “prove” the girl is lying about her allergies.
Another supportive message read: ‘I hate when people understand “I am allergic” as “I dislike”, one can be life threatening, it is not a matter to take lightly.’
Offering their verdict, one Reddit user wrote: ‘That’s not an excuse. They made no effort to accommodate your allergies. If anyone should be offended, it’s you.
‘They were rude to not have anything you could eat at the gathering they invited you to be at, and being informed of your allergies beforehand. The end.’
One person said they would ‘have pressed charges’ against the mother for potentially ‘poisoning’ the woman, while another said to ‘take them to court for suffering’.
Someone else said: ‘Ask your BF, “If I sprinkled rat poison in food I served you, and told you to eat around it, would you think that was acceptable?”
‘Allergies are life and death. He’s putting his mother’s feeling before your health and wellbeing.
‘If any of your allergies require you to carry an EpiPen, also ask if he is willing to pay to replace it, plus pay hospital bills if you try to eat around the allergens.
‘Then, consider cutting your losses.’